For those of you who just don’t care or took a step away from “The Loop” for a day or two, let me brief you quickly. Yesterday, Chris Brown and Rihanna released two remixed tracks (one from each of their repertoire’s) to mixed reviews. Rih’s hit, “Brithday Cake” has been a smash from the moment most of us read the song title and a full length track has been long awaited. But a full length tune accompanied by her ex, Breezy, promising to beat it up (in the best way this time) was, like, “Oh. Okay then!”
I mean, Rih is determined to put her cake is his face and Chris has his wishes ready for the candles. All I can think is…Where the fuck is your girlfriend?
Of course, I took my opinions to Twitter. Any excuse that the song idea was strictly professional went out of the window when the song wasn’t put on the album initially in its current (remixed) form. From the moment “Talk That Talk” was released, folks wondered why in the hottest hell the best track was cut short. I could spend this whole post discussing how this may have been a media ploy from the very beginning…how it seems Chris and Rih have been subtweeting each other for the past month or so…how gossip blogs have been reporting about their rekindled friendship and recent contact…how the two were sighted at Rih’s birthday party “dancing and being intimate” all night…and how I truly believe Chris’ verse and the “remix” may have been the original track from the get-go…. but I’ll tuck my degree away on this one.
We’ll try to look at the situation at it’s base: a guy and girl who were once in a relationship reach a point where they feel comfortable rekindling a friendship, but are finding that that friendship may be bleeding over into past feelings. Again, I wonder, Where is Karrueche? (Chris’ current girlfriend).
There isn’t much Karrueche could say about the two releasing a track together. I can see how her opinion about Chris’ music and subsequently his career breaches the boundary of their relationship. Not sure how long they’ve been together, but I’m certain she’d have to have a ring on it in order to have any say in those matters. However, there’s the issue of Chris’ attendance at Rih’s recent birthday celebration. The bad bitch in all of us is giving Kar’ the ghetto-girl-eye-roll, smacking our lips and saying, “Honey, please!”. ‘Cause our man wouldn’t have been allowed to go, right? In a perfect world: right. It’s unfortunate, however, that the men who concede to “You can’t go to your ex’s birthday party” and other such demands, aren’t typically the men we’re attracted to. Those men are pussies, right? I myself much prefer a man who would look at me a little crazy, attend the event and text me once he finally made it home. Better yet, I’d love a guy who would tell me about the invite and decide not to go of his own volition. That’s a winner! But a perfect world is indeed what we do NOT live in and upon receiving notice of Rihanna’s party, Chris decided to go sans girlfriend. But after years of fan-dom, I feel as though I know Rih and baby girl wouldn’t be havin’ it with Kar’ poppin’ cooch at her event. Not at all. Not even a little bit. Shit would’ve went up in flames.
What I’m hoping is that we all have this wrong. I’m hoping Chris and Rih spent the entire evening in separate Dougie circles. I hope no shoulders were dusted off. I hope they kept things legit. Because the the girl in me wants the best for Karrueche. I want not to believe she is in complete denial about her relationship. I want to believe Chris is really trying to make it work with her, really enjoys her company and thinks she’s something special. But…okay let me break this down real quick…
Do you all listen to Chris and Rihanna’s music? I always surprise myself with just how much Chris Brown I have in my iTunes (ie: kinda every album/mixtape he has, but whatever!) and I’ve been a fan of Rihanna’s since she was telling the DJ to turn the music up. These are two very passionate individuals. They’re passionate about what they do. They’re passionate about their fans and their fame. They’re passionate about living in a way a lot of people try to emulate. It’s not the kind of passion you can fake. And these two individuals had a WHOLE relationship that ended in a WHOLE domestic violence situation. Now, how many of you have been in a fight with an intimate partner? Those fights are different than any other kind of fight you can have. The crazy things that fly out of the mouths of two angry lovers could leave either rocking back and forth in a dark corner alone. When a boyfriend yells at you it’s the most startling thing second only to your parents. Now, imagine finding yourself in a fight so heated, your boyfriend leaves you looking like Elephant Man. Shits nuts!
What I’m attempting to say is: Chris and Rih have a kind of unforgettable love. They have something that won’t ever go away, They have the kind of attraction that only doesn’t occur when you’re actively working against it. It’s the kind of thing that’s only helped with morning affirmations and your good friends hiding your cell phone in times of weakness. It seems the two have let their guards down now. They’re probably thinking the same thing we all think: “I’m over it”.
My only wish is for Karrueche to open her eyes in this moment while she can still escape with a fair amount of dignity. She could bow out gracefully and, better yet, come out on top of all this. It’s so crazy how us ladies lose tons of swag during the demise of a relationship. We beg. We moan. We reveal all of our feelings in a last ditch effort to win back a man who was probably never ours. We kill whatever mystery is left. We make sure we’re all used up when most times we could’ve made it out on at least 30% battery.
Karrueche just needs to drag her ass out, shake her hot oriental tale, flip her hair and show Chris WE BOTH HOT OUTCHEA! NO WORRIES!!
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