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Dude, Im so scared for this chick you’re dating. You’re doing a lot of self-evaluating right now which is awesome but you need to come to a conclusion ASAP! If you’re uninterested in marriage, you need to tell her. When you want to be with someone for life, you’re sure of it. If you’re not, tell her so that she has not wasted some of her best self on you (no offense). Do not tell her you’ll work on getting used to the thought or blah blah blah so as to give you time to figure it out. You’re stalling and if in the end you’re still unsure, she’ll still hurt. 

If you feel you and your dick haven’t seen the world, go see it. I’ll tell you it’s likely you’ll come running back to her because the grass is always greener. But that’s the risk you run. BUT you could have a plethora of life changing experiences, become someone who needs something/someone different, and find another lady or two or a few who will show you some things that interest you in a way your current girl does not. You never know…

I urge you to think, though. Think of all these things you feel you may have missed out on and consider whether or not you could still experience them with her. Is getting rid of someone you’ve been with for years going to be the answer to your problems? Part of me feels like your relationship is the scapegoat for other issues and that scares me because I’m beginning to sound like Dr. Phil. But for real, like unless pussy is the mission, which is totally okay, can’t you “experience” life all the same with her? Maybe you need to create some distance? Maybe she’s requiring husband-y things of you now and it’s totally within your rights to tell her to cool it. I just feel like you dudes get all in your head about not being prepared and getting this, that and the third together before you’ll be able to commit to such and such but meanwhile you break up with us and are dead alone while you’re “getting it together” or “experiencing the world” and still calling us for date nights and pootang.  

But idk…these are grown up problems and I still don’t know much about much. I will say this with confidence though: DO NOT stay with her for fear of hurting her or fear of being alone. She’ll hurt all the same now, next month or in ten years. It will kill her but don’t be afraid of that. Life sucks a lot of the time for a lot of people. She will survive. And you too will survive. You’ll be by yourself and without romantic obligation in this big big world you feel may have zipped by. 

There will be something more special for the two of you. 

:)