Anonymous asked: What's your opinion on this man? Met over six months ago. See each other at least once a month. Just learned he's had an email thing going with some other girl out of state since before me. She sends dirty videos and pictures and mixes in personal shit about herself for validation (don't ask how I know). We were gonna stop talking but he said he would be sad if we weren't friends anymore. Emotionally unavailable, but why does he keep me around? The fuck's my role been in this?

YOU are likely the emotionally fulfilling part of all this. From what you described of your snoopetry this other girl is handling the erotic aspects while it’s likely he enjoys talking and spending time with you. I mean..you all aren’t exclusive from what you’ve said so, he’s definitely allowed to carry on in whatever way he likes, which includes raunchy pictures and all that jazz. He’s just being a dude. If I were you, I’d continue getting to know him without focusing so much on where the relationship could go. It’ll go where it goes, ya know? Until then, you’re both allowed to explore other options in whatever way you see fit. Don’t act like you’re not out here doing your thang girl! ‘Cause “once a month” ain’t cuttin it.