Anonymous asked: Hey! So I met this guy but he never took me on a date, claiming he was too busy. Long story short, we ended up sleeping together but he never called after. The next week, I saw him out at the bar, booed up with some chick. I deleted his # and erased him from my social network world. Sunday, 2 weeks after I saw him with that girl, he texted me. I didn't respond. What is he trying to do? What should I do?

The girl is likely his girlfriend, boo or whatever. He’s texting you because seeing you out that night was probably the first he’s thought of you in a while (harsh reality). And he wanted to see if he still ‘has” you. He wants to know how much it’d take to get you back in bed. He wants to keep you in play basically—make sure you’re not forgetting he’s around. And by contacting you when he knows you saw him out and boo’ed up with some other chick, he’s testing you. He’s asking, “Does this girl still want me even after seeing me with my girlfriend?”. I know all of that may sound harsh and unlike the person you think you know. But even the nicest guys can think these things. It doesn’t make him a bad person, it makes him a dude. And when you think about it, girls do the same shit. We wonder whether we “still got it” with certain individuals and we’ll test that every once in a while with little concern for the person or their feelings. 

So, my suggestion is to ignore his messages. You went there once and there’s no need to go back. Unless sex with a man in a relationship is what you want.