Anonymous asked: There's this guy who I know from being friends on fb and following one another on instagram, twitter and all that jazz. He's caught my eye and we chat a little here and there. I don't have his number so I want to dm him on twitter and say something..but idk what to say lol. I'm not at all used to pursuing guys, especially online. It's kind of juvenile but I've been wanting to say something for the longest. Oh and he goes to school in d.c. and I'm in IL, is it even worth it? Thanks :-)
Let’s not call it pursuing just yet. Doing this will eliminate whatever girl-crazy that tries to creep up. ‘Cause, I mean, we don’t even know this dude yet. You have no clue if he’s even available for the pursuing (social networks are not at all sufficient evidence) So, really, what you want to do is create a better, wider path to getting to know him. And I think in 2012, where technology is abundant, two people can really connect no matter the distance. Plus, if you end up becoming good friends (or, ya know, “good friends”) you have a place to stay in D.C if ever there’s a conference or festival or whatever the cool kids go to these days. SO, what’s the game plan? I don’t like the direct messaging idea, girl. It may just be me, but DMs are annoying after a while and I only use them for super quick conversations or to get a Twitter bud my number or personal info. Saying hello via direct message doesn’t leave tons of room for good conversation. Of the three options, I’d probably go with Facebook. I’m not into FB chat so, I probs wouldn’t go there either. I would try my best to find a conversation starter on his Facebook and write him a message. Has he posted any links? Seen any random mutual friends in his tagged photos? Are y’all listening to the same channel on Spotify? Girl, dig! Find something (But don’t reach! You may have to lay in wait for a few days to find something convo worthy but just WAIT). Then, get chatty. The convo won’t likely be quick back and forth but I think that’s why I like the messaging idea. It forces you to write a little more than you probably would in a chat, which is a good thing here. Now, I’m imaging you all messaging back and forth about ever-developing (ever-varying) topics for the next few days/weeks (this is a process) upon which time you will exclaim about how awesome it would be if you all could talk more frequently. This is when you ask him for his Skype name and/or Gmail. I feel like these are far more legitimate chatting tools than FB, but I have issues with Facebook chat. Don’t mind me. Sooo the thing to keep in mind with all this is that it’s a process. The waiting is what makes you not seem like a creep. But if you’re going to try at this you have to remember that this is the task you set out to accomplish. Don’t be discouraged if he doesn’t msg/tweet you as often as you’re messaging him. You have to remember that you haven’t given him a reason to yet. It’s hard to make yourself a part of someone’s actual world via the internet world. And with that, I should add it wouldn’t hurt to step your tweeting etc. game up. If the web is your only medium, you have to make yourself interesting on the web, ya know?
