Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 3 months. We are both college sophomores. I want your advice on having college boy/girl friends. I We were talking from april to october and I really wanted him to ask me out. But now that he has I can't "be me". (Im not the type to have sex with everyone. im no hoe). It is just hard for me to be someone and be open with them. And I dont know what to do...I just feel I dont want to live with these limitations. Im in college...ya know?

Girrrrl…I feel your pain. I was going to write a post about this exact thing once but couldn’t find the right words. How much one is able to do in social situations while in a relationship is really dependent on the relationship. I mean, I like to get my flirt on and feel attractive, which in my mind has nothing to do with my actual relationship. But I can definitely see why my last boo would never allow it and some chicks could get stoned out here for it. The last boy always said “don’t do with some other guy what you wouldn’t want me doing with another girl” and that was all I needed to hear. There are ways to “be yourself” without potentially harming your relationship, but if you find that it’s impossible you may need to re-evaluate whether or not a relationship is really what you want. Just remember, relationships are rare in college and something worth holding on to if you’ve found the right one. Don’t trade something special for getting felt up in the club.