Anonymous asked: there's a guy at work that i like and he said hes kinda interested in me but what does kinda mean? does he not want to hurt my feelings so he'll humour me? hes 28, 10 yrs older than me but i really like his personality and humor. he also has a 7 yr old son who he hasn't seen for 2 yrs so obviously has more experience with sex and i have none! never had a bf either, if it gets to sex ill have no idea what to do. we're going out for a drink soon should i just stay friends or see how far it goes?
Oh honey! You gotta end this charade before it even begins. First of all, what kinda drinks are you two planning to have with this ten year age difference (28-10 = drinks in his basement or an MIP)? Is he buying you lemonade? I think it’s really important to differentiate lust and like. With someone ten years your seniors it’s likely that this is just a little crush and better left unaddressed.
But even if you were to decide you really like this guy and want to pursue something, there are a lot of red flags here. A son he never sees? I’d think you want a man who handles his obligations. This also shines a light on your maturity level. I get the feeling you prefer that he doesn’t see his son because that means you’ll likely never have to deal with that drama. But if you give yourself a few more years I think you’ll see that a man who handles his business is a catch, not this guy. Two, “kinda interested” isn’t interest enough, hun. You want a guy whose interest is made very clear from jump. Even the shyest of men will make their intentions clear and ask you out to more than lemonade.
So yea, leave it alone
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polarisavenue said:
Wow, I hope anon listens to you! That’s just one big mess that needs to be left alone completely. He’s already creepy enough for going after an 18yr old, and ‘kinda interested’ seems more like ‘want to have sex’ or ‘using you for a fling’ to me.
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